I have found a recipe for the perfect Tuesday morning. You ready for it? Caramel Brulee coffee creamer + Katy Perry. Sound a little crazy? It probably is. But right now I am drinking coffee that is mixed with this delicious creamer and listening to Roar on Spotify and I feel like I can get anything done. GREAT MORNING. Try it, let me know how it works for you.
Ok, onto wedding related things. Today’s blog is for all of the girls out there who are currently engaged or about to be engaged- to the girl who is worried about perfect centerpieces, fretting over the guest list, and anxious about anything and everything wedding related. I have been there. I have walked through the insane process of wedding planning while also preparing to graduate college and celebrate Christmas. What can I say, I like a little chaos in my life.
So why I am writing to you today? Because I want to encourage you and remind you that things will go wrong throughout the entire planning process. Don’t believe me? I am a floral designer and event planner and my wedding still had unplanned disasters. It’s my job people and there were still things I could have never prepared for! Still don’t believe me? Well, let me give you some examples.
Wedding Showers We had not one but TWO wedding showers where hardly anyone showed up. For whatever reason on those two weekends in two completely different states we had tiny wedding showers. You know what? They were still awesome. We got to spend some serious quality time with people in the midst of a busy season and we had a blast.
Bachelorette Party My bachelorette party has become legendary with my friends. At the time it was a little crazy but now we look back and laugh about it. To start, our first night of the weekend we had all these plans to go out to bars, kareoke, and all sorts of fun stuff. Turns out Ft. Worth doesn’t have any bars or clubs that allow people under the age of 21 in them. My two little sisters (one biological one by friendship) were both 20 so we walked the streets of Ft. Worth looking for a place to go. Next, while we were looking for a place to go we got pulled over. Oh yes, a cop pulled us over for not putting on our blinker to pull off a curb. This started a very strange conversation between me and the cop about bars in town that may let in people under 21. He turned out to be very helpful and ended up not giving us a ticket, thank goodness. Later, while we were walking around we almost got hit by a drunk driver who proceeded to hit another car and drive off. Yep, thats right, we witnessed a hit and run. We ended up back at the hotel eating ice cream and fearful of what the rest of the weekend was going to look like. The next day we turned it around and had one of the sweetest and most fun days of my life. We went shopping, took hilarious pictures in a park (just as a 5k race went by of course) and laughed all day. The disastrous night before? It was one of the best bonding experiences I could have asked for. —shout out to my sister for being the absolute best maid of honor- she was so flexible and rolled with all of the craziness that was happening and made it into the most hilarious and fun weekend a girl could want!
Wedding Our wedding was supposed to be outside on New Years Eve. Historically in Texas there is no rain in December. It rained the entire week of our wedding, got weirdly cold, and rained the day of our wedding. Our venue had to throw up a tent, decorate it, and change the entire set up last minute. We took our first look pictures outside in the mist, the best man lost his suit which resulted in hours of searching, and did I mention I was sick? Oh yeah, Rob and I both had serious colds. However, it was the BEST AND HAPPIEST DAY OF MY LIFE. All the challenges didn’t even matter because at the end of the day I got to be married to Hubs.
I wanted to share a little piece of my story with y’all because I have been in your shoes. I know some of you probably dream about seating charts, back up rain plans, bridesmaid dresses, and what could go wrong. Let me tell you, something will go differently than planned. It always does. After being a part of countless weddings I have still yet to see one go perfectly. You have got to roll with it and let it go. Don’t let the little stuff drive you crazy, don’t let the big stuff ruin your day. At the end of all of it you will be married. MARRIED!! How exciting is that? Who cares if the food shows up late, your hair looks differently than you wanted, or someone gives a weird toast? These are the things you will laugh about with your husband in the years to come. The point of a wedding isn’t to show people what a perfect party you can throw, it is to celebrate the fact that you are starting a life with the man of your dreams. Life is messy, crazy, and unpredictable. Why do we think weddings will be any different?
So I hope your wedding is everything you dreamed about. I hope it is amazing, fun, and goes off without a hitch. But I also hope that you spend more time dreaming about your marriage that your ceremony, that your husband loves you unconditionally, that your relationship is filled with as much fun, dancing, and laughter as your reception. All those little things that go wrong will not matter at all the minute you get married. In fact, you will probably spend part of your honeymoon laughing about them.
Except for the hit and run, that was legitimately scary.
So enjoy every minute of your engagement and wedding but don’t let it drive you crazy. Laugh at the small stuff, let go of the big stuff, and be merry and married.
It’s pretty awesome.